The Truth About Modern Romance

"If you believe in love at first sight, you never stop looking."

Hello Stranger...I said that to myself when our eyes met. I can feel the sparks. I can sense the connection. Is this a love at first sight? Is there really such a thing as love at first sight?

I guess the quote from the movie "Closer" above says it all. You will never stop seeking for true love if you keep looking at people on the street and trying to make eye contact with the person you think is the "right" person. Love won't happen just like that, in a blink of an eye. Love grows from truth and honesty and lots of other values, and that takes time. That's all I can say. The love you think you feel may only be a desire for the love itself.

"Love is an accident waiting to happen"

When you fall in love with someone, you don't have a choice. Well, maybe you do, it's either you're falling in love with that person, or you're denying the fact that you love that person because you don't want any troubles. You can do this or you can resist. However, sometimes it just happens..like what the quote says..is an accident waiting to happen. But, can we really say that love is an accident? Or is it the moment that's the actual accident? The moment of our lives that we can't avoid? The moments when the universe is trying to help us and tell us to fall in love?

Dan: "I fell in love with her, Alice."

Alice: "Oh, as if you had no choice? There's a moment, there's always a moment? I can do this, I can give into this, or I can resist it? And I don't know when your moment was, but I bet there was one."

Larry: "You don't know the first thing about love because you don't understand compromise."

"Desire is a stranger...you think you know"

Like I said before, people often mistakenly the desire for love with the love itself. They force themselves to fall in love, when they're unsure about the feelings they have or about what love is all about. They feel like they've become friends with the stranger, when they know that the stranger is still a stranger. At the end, they will realize that the feelings they have before are actually the strangers they think they know.

Alice: "Where is this 'love'? I can't see it, I can't feel it. I can hear it. I can hear some words, but I can't do anything with your easy words."

"Intimacy is a lie...we tell ourselves"

This is just wrong, I think. Why would we want intimacy if we lie about our feelings and the whole relationship? Why is there such a thing as pretending? Pretending to love and pretending to be loved. Why would we want to be in denial all the time about what's really going on? Why do we have to be actors in a relationship, when we know that this is a real life and not a movie? Why do we have to lie? Why do we set aside truth and honesty, when we realize that those are the values of the relationship itself?

Anna: "Why is the sex so important?"

Larry: "Because I'm a fucking caveman!"

"Truth is a game...you play to win"

The last quote here may explains the truth about modern romance, where the concepts of truth and honesty are used for competition and not for something we should respect. In this modern romance, they may still value truth and honesty. However, they don't use them to uphold the relationship or for forgiveness anymore, but they use them as tools to hurt others. They may think that the "love they can't resist" is the cause of all these problems. They want to be in the game where they can win and avoid hurts, without even realizing that what they do is hurting.

Dan: "What's so great about truth? Try lying for a change - it's the currency of the world."

Alice: "I don't want to lie. I can't tell the truth. So it's over."

Anna: "Don't stop loving me. I can see it draining out of you. It meant nothing. If you love me, you'll forgive me."

Dan: "I owe you an apology. I fell in love with her. My intention was not to make you suffer."

Though it sounds complicated, I must say that I love this movie. Throughout the movie you'll find some people who are never satisfied and always looking for something more in a relationship. The sad thing is they always start looking when they're not supposed to and they can't never stop.