Thursday, July 28, 2005

Beautiful Words

"You and I are connected in a way that goes beyond romance, beyond friendship, beyond what we've ever had before. It has defied time, distance, and changes in ourselves and in our lives. And it has defied every explanation except one: purely and simply, we're soul mates. I can't explain it. I just feel it. It's there in the way my spirit subtly lifts whenever we talk, how the sound of your voice brings me home in a way I can't explain. It's in the delight I feel when we laugh at exactly the same things.

When I'm with you, it's like a tiny part of the universe shifts into the place it's supposed to be, and all is right with the world. These things, and so many more, have made me understand that this is a once-in-a-lifetime, forever connection that could only exist between you and me. And deep in my soul, I know that our relationship is a rare gift, one that will bring us an extraordinary happiness all through our lives."

(Suzanne Heins)

Wednesday, July 27, 2005

I wish I may, I wish I might..

Today's my birthday. Yay! I'm grateful to be here in life today and feel how's it like to be 24. Thanks to all my friends for their wonderful wishes and presents. I, myself, have my own wish. It's a simple wish with a lot of meaning. I'm not asking for anything but the wish I wish today.

I wish I may, I wish I might..have this wish I wish today...(amin).

Saturday, July 23, 2005

The Truth About Modern Romance



"If you believe in love at first sight, you never stop looking."

Hello Stranger...I said that to myself when our eyes met. I can feel the sparks. I can sense the connection. Is this a love at first sight? Is there really such a thing as love at first sight?

I guess the quote from the movie "Closer" above says it all. You will never stop seeking for true love if you keep looking at people on the street and trying to make eye contact with the person you think is the "right" person. Love won't happen just like that, in a blink of an eye. Love grows from truth and honesty and lots of other values, and that takes time. That's all I can say. The love you think you feel may only be a desire for the love itself.

"Love is an accident waiting to happen"

When you fall in love with someone, you don't have a choice. Well, maybe you do, it's either you're falling in love with that person, or you're denying the fact that you love that person because you don't want any troubles. You can do this or you can resist. However, sometimes it just happens..like what the quote says..is an accident waiting to happen. But, can we really say that love is an accident? Or is it the moment that's the actual accident? The moment of our lives that we can't avoid? The moments when the universe is trying to help us and tell us to fall in love?

Dan: "I fell in love with her, Alice."

Alice: "Oh, as if you had no choice? There's a moment, there's always a moment? I can do this, I can give into this, or I can resist it? And I don't know when your moment was, but I bet there was one."

Larry: "You don't know the first thing about love because you don't understand compromise."

"Desire is a stranger...you think you know"

Like I said before, people often mistakenly the desire for love with the love itself. They force themselves to fall in love, when they're unsure about the feelings they have or about what love is all about. They feel like they've become friends with the stranger, when they know that the stranger is still a stranger. At the end, they will realize that the feelings they have before are actually the strangers they think they know.

Alice: "Where is this 'love'? I can't see it, I can't feel it. I can hear it. I can hear some words, but I can't do anything with your easy words."

"Intimacy is a lie...we tell ourselves"

This is just wrong, I think. Why would we want intimacy if we lie about our feelings and the whole relationship? Why is there such a thing as pretending? Pretending to love and pretending to be loved. Why would we want to be in denial all the time about what's really going on? Why do we have to be actors in a relationship, when we know that this is a real life and not a movie? Why do we have to lie? Why do we set aside truth and honesty, when we realize that those are the values of the relationship itself?

Anna: "Why is the sex so important?"

Larry: "Because I'm a fucking caveman!"

"Truth is a game...you play to win"

The last quote here may explains the truth about modern romance, where the concepts of truth and honesty are used for competition and not for something we should respect. In this modern romance, they may still value truth and honesty. However, they don't use them to uphold the relationship or for forgiveness anymore, but they use them as tools to hurt others. They may think that the "love they can't resist" is the cause of all these problems. They want to be in the game where they can win and avoid hurts, without even realizing that what they do is hurting.

Dan: "What's so great about truth? Try lying for a change - it's the currency of the world."

Alice: "I don't want to lie. I can't tell the truth. So it's over."

Anna: "Don't stop loving me. I can see it draining out of you. It meant nothing. If you love me, you'll forgive me."

Dan: "I owe you an apology. I fell in love with her. My intention was not to make you suffer."

Though it sounds complicated, I must say that I love this movie. Throughout the movie you'll find some people who are never satisfied and always looking for something more in a relationship. The sad thing is they always start looking when they're not supposed to and they can't never stop.

Friday, July 15, 2005

Soulmates - Do they really exist?

Sometimes in a relationship we question ourselves whether or not our partners are our soulmates. We feel the connection and love between each other that we sometimes try to convince ourselves that we have found our soulmates. But then, not all relationships work out perfectly like in fairy tales. Things happen here and there, and when things are starting to fall apart, we realize that our partners are not exactly the people who we consider as our soulmates.

So, the question is, do soulmates really exist or are they only our imaginations and creations in life? Is there really someone on the other side of this world who is waiting to complete you? And is it a part of our missions in this life to find that other half? Or is this just another serendipity or a fortunate accident that waiting to happen?

So many questions, so little answers.

One thing about soulmates is they may come when the time is right, you may not even realize.

I consider a soulmate as someone who can fill my life with peace and happiness. Someone who can complete me when I feel incomplete. Someone whom I can open up to without being asked. Someone who is the missing piece of a puzzle that I've been searching for. Someone who can make me smile from the heart when I finally put down that last missing piece. Someone who can make me feel wanted. Someone who can give me a warm feeling that I've never felt before. Someone whom I trust. Someone who can make me a better person everyday. Someone who can make a simple word, such as "us" means more than anything. Someone whom I can't stop thinking about. Someone whom I consider as one of the most important parts of my life. Someone whom I can't live without. And finally, someone whom I truly love so much.

So, do they really exist? I guess they do. Of course, if you believe in them.

ps: thanks for coming into my life.

"A soulmate is someone who has the locks to fit our keys, and the keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we; we can be loved for who we are and for who we're pretending to be. Each of us unveils the best part of one another. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person were safe in our paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we've found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life."

-Richard Bach

Thursday, July 07, 2005

a little note

"And every time I close my eyes
I thank the Lord that I've got you
And you've got me too
And every time I think of it
I pinch myself 'cause I don't believe it's true
That someone like you loves me too..."

(Every Time I Close My Eyes - Babyface)